The Opt-Out Myth

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Responses to
"The Opt-Out Myth" 

There's been a great deal of response to our article "The Opt-Out Myth," including that listed below.

Broadcast interviews:

  • NECN-TV's "Wired" with Jim Braude, "E.J. Graff on women, work, and family," March 27, 2007. NECN (New England Cable News) is broadcast throughout New England.
  • “The Diane Rehm Show,” WAMU/NPR, March 27, 2007. Broadcast on radio networks worldwide, with 1.6 million listeners.
  • FAIR's "CounterSpin," "E.J. Graff on The Opt-Out Myth." Interview by Janine Jackson. Broadcast on 135 radio stations worldwide or available by clicking on FAIR's website.

Commentary and blog mentions:

Reader responses:

I can't tell you how meaningful your essay was to me and virtually every mid-career woman I know. It's been on constant email-forward among many of my friends
I'm a 32-year-old newspaper reporter who has just watched a new mother leave the business after being denied part-time work. Another friend is readying her exit for the same reason. Baby boomer managers -- usually men -- were raised by 1950s stay-at-home moms. Even if their own wives work, they see younger professional women as temporary workers, destined to go on permanent vacation after the birth of a child. That hurts negotiations and salaries. Thank you for pointing out the utter failure of major media to adequately capture this story.
      In my family, I am a breadwinner, pure and simple. And my work is part of me. Why would my friends and I all have spent the last decade working hard to rise in our professions, only to walk away?
      Again, many thanks for your excellent essay.
          --Kathleen Carroll, New Jersey

Thanks for your article on the Opt Out Myth. I used to be a faculty member at [a major research university] and left because of the inability to balance family and work (I have two young kids). I managed to find a great company that has allowed me the flexibility and growth opportunities while doing cutting-edge work and consulting. We have an interesting compensation structure that allows me on a month-to-month basis to determine how much work I wanted to do and what my schedule is going to be. We have no "promotions" and our ability to buy into our partnership is based on our billings. Because there is no bonus, we have no need for face time. Iwork very odd hours at times to accommodate my kids and my clients. Because we have no hierarchy in the company other than a CEO and the rest of us, there is no glass ceiling.
      I often wonder with my friends who are lawyers and consultants why our model couldn't be used in other organizations. It is fair and equal to all. I am usually the only one in my working moms' group who doesn't complain about work/life balance.
          --Anna Thornton, Boston, Massachusetts

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